• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Grace & Lightness Magazine

Inspiring Wonder. Traveling Better. Making Mental Health Cool.

  • Mood Recipes
  • Life Coaching
  • Anxiety Hacks
  • Travel Well
  • Cool Ideas
esther perel

Watch Esther Perel’s Concise Lesson on How to Argue Better

September 1, 2024 by Molly Beauchemin Leave a Comment

Esther Perel is a preeminent psychotherapist and relationship expert from Belgium, who is known for her dynamic research on everything from couples intimacy to argument style.

She is the author of several New York Times bestselling books on relationships (including The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity) as well as the creator of a new, intriguing emotional learning card game called Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories by Ester Perel. That, and she’s fluent in nine languages!  

In the below video, she uses an example fight to illustrate the myriad ways in which many of us bring baked-in assumptions about our partners to every argument.

Then, she gives insight on what we can do to relieve ourselves of the added frustration that this behavior inevitably creates.

By indicating how confirmation bias and misplaced emotions can skew the narrative we create about our partner’s motivations, we can gain greater insight into the psychology of forgiveness in even the most basic arguments. (Like when one partner gets mad at the other one for being late.) 

It’s a simple, intriguing practice that can save us all a lot of grief. Plus, we can apply this strategy to our social, professional, and familial relationships just as much as to our intimate relationships with a partner or spouse. When you know how to fight smarter, moreover, everyone wins.  

Watch Esther advise on how to fight smarter to avoid the most common relationship pitfalls in the video, below. 

***

*** 

Related: Watch Will Smith’s Moving Red Table Talk on Conflict Resolution.

Filed Under: Life Coaching Tagged With: anger, free therapy, Psychotherapy, relationships

Reader Interactions

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Primary Sidebar

Sign up for the G&L Newsletter!

  • Understanding Ho’oponopono: A Beautiful Hawaiian Teaching About Forgiveness

  • Ted Lasso’s Biscuit Recipe (The Real Recipe from The Show)

  • An Insider’s Guide to Santa Fe, New Mexico (17 Awesome Things to Do)

  • The 9 Best Natural Eczema Creams of 2025

  • The 6 Best Free Meditation Apps of 2025

  • The 12 Best Restaurants in Santa Fe for Unforgettable Meals

  • Honolulu’s Best Restaurants: 25 Amazing Places to Eat

  • 15 Cool Bucket List Things to Do in Northern Virginia

  • The Best Crab Cakes in Baltimore: 6 Delicious Spots

  • A Quick Breakdown of Byron Katie’s “The Work”, & How To Practice At Home

Search The Archive

Footer

Pages

  • About This Magazine
  • Contact
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Service

Copyright © 2025 Grace & Lightness Magazine